SareneB. Arias

Supporting Polyamorous couples

Love

You might be wondering...

How can I survive in this Poly Relationship?

Many of us find our way to polyamory motivated by our values. As open-minded, free-thinking people, we are drawn to the idea that love can grow as we do. Or perhaps, you find yourself in the ENM (Ethical-non-monogamy) community because sparks flew between you and a new lover before (s)he shared that they are non-monogamous.



The more ENM folks i meet, the more I understand that there are many shades of polyamory

All of them demand a brave and resilient heart. Open relationships can sometimes feel like a trial by fire.

Wether you are new to ENM or long Committed, this advanced Relationship structure can be hard work.

I love helping couples to center in their love, listen better and find their way to the kind of polyamory that is right for them.

About

me

Sarene B Arias is a Certified Integral Therapist and the author of Compassionate Divorce. In her forthcoming book, One Hundred Years Together, she presents polyamory as an advanced relationship structure with the potential to offer deep and lasting happiness.

Transformational Therapy

Sarene offers transformational psychotherapy sessions for polyamorous individuals and couples. While some opt to work with Sarene over an extended period, most poly couples see her for 2-5 deep-dive sessions, supporting them to communicate effectively, center on love and grow together.

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$350

Deep Dive , Transformational 2.5 hr Sessions

$150

Ongoing Counseling for Individuals and Couples

One Hundred

Years Together

A Book about polyamory as a key to lifelong relationship by Sarene B.. Arias

Publication Date

WINTER 2025

Description

As life-span increases, it is time to think differently about the ways we live, love and grow. In One Hundred Years Together, Sarene presents a model of polyamory that is ethical and generous, in which committed relationships become containers for our flourishing.

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Online Support

Contact

Sarene sees clients via secure Zoom meetings. Schedule your complimentary 20-minute informational session today, or take our Thrive Survey to get started.

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Contact

818.275.2095

Schedule

@Sar23ne on Telegram (click to download)

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FAQ

What Types of Couples do you see?

as a poly coach, Sarene specializes in supporting Ethically Non-Monogamous couples to thrive.

Where do sessions take place?

Sarene only sees clients virtually, through a secure Zoom connection.

What if my relationship isn’t exactly ENM (ethically Non-Monogamous?

Counseling with Sarene is judgement-free. If you are having an affair or in monogamous relationship but curious about polyamory, and want to work with Sarene. she would love to meet you.

Are you poly?

Yes! Sarene identifies a satisfied solo-poly woman, who loves love, loves loving, and loves loving love.

Polyamory is Not About the Sex

BY:

Sarene B. Arias

II had identified as poly for about five years when the most unexpected thing happened; I met the love of my life. Blood pumping with love chemicals, for months on end, I wanted nothing more than to be with only him, to touch him, taste him, smell him, feel him near me. From the very depths of my being, I wanted to shout, “Be mine!” He was not my only active relationship, but if I was being honest, I had to admit that I wanted only him. But, here is the thing…it is not just that we both identify as poly; it was our agreements around polyamory that brought us together in the first place. The very DNA of our relationship is polyamory.


The values of polyamory are the threads that make up the fabric of who we are as a couple. He came to find me when he had just begun to doubt that polyamory was a workable relationship strategy. I found him when I was certain that I was “too much” or “too intense” for conventional relationships. Then, like a miracle, there he was. There I was. There we were. Poly-ever-after.


In our early months, he would not stop talking about escalators.

Poly folks talk a lot about escalators. Escalators, more than “naiveté” or “traditionalism” encapsulate the accusation that poly folks throw at monogamous ones when debating relationship strategies.


Traditional relationships, poly folks assert, are built on an implicit assumption of “the escalator,” or the expectation that when it’s real, love must be followed by marriage, house, and maybe kids. Poly folks reject the escalator as a given, replacing it with a variety of other metaphors or directions the relationship can take. Some poly folks claim that the joy of poly comes in its “anything goes as long as we agree on it” approach. But, I think it is possible to be more precise when identifying the difference between monogamy and polyamory as a relationship strategy.


Here’s a spoiler: It is not about the sex.


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